A More-or-Less Definitive List of How I Feel About Various Gendered Terms

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Don't Use

  • she/her/hers
  • ze/hir/hirs or xe/hir/hirs
  • it/it/its
  • female
  • male
  • butch (I'm not butch)
  • woman
  • girl
  • lady
  • ma'am
  • madam
  • sir
  • miss
  • Mr.
  • Ms.
  • Mrs.
  • enby
  • transgender
  • transsexual
  • transvestite
  • guy (gender-neutral "you guys" okay)
  • dude ("my dude" and gender-neutral interjection "dude" okay)
  • dudette (PLS NO)
  • man
  • girlfriend
  • uncle
  • brother
  • nephew
  • mother/mom/mommy (only Thin Mint can call me mommy, but it's okay to use "mommy" when talking about my relationship with Thin Mint)
  • father/dad/daddy
  • king
  • princess
  • princex
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Do Use

  • they/them/theirs
  • ei/em/eirs or ey/em/eirs
  • ae/aer/aers
  • he/him/his
  • ta
  • 祂 (ok I'm kidding here, mostly)
  • nonbinary
  • antibinary
  • epicene
  • trans
  • femme
  • feminine
  • Mx.
  • Misc.
  • Msc.
  • auntie
  • sister
  • sibling
  • daughter
  • child
  • niece
  • nibling
  • parent
  • wife
  • husband
  • spouse
  • boyfriend
  • partner
  • bro
  • bruh
  • boy
  • boye
  • duke
  • duchess
  • queen
  • prince
  • descriptors of attractiveness are all generally okay (e.g. beautiful, handsome, pretty, dapper)

I am impartial to all other gender-neutral pronouns. I don't identify as genderqueer (I usually use "nonbinary"), but I wouldn't consider it wrong if you referred to me as genderqueer. I have no preference between the terms AFAB, DFAB, FAAB, and CAFAB. Please contact me if you have any questions or terms to add. Thanks!